Witt's End

I want to be clear. I wrote this for me. I  haven’t done as well by women as I thought I have. And I can do better. But I also thought if I was struggling with this that I couldn't be alone. And this is a moment to change that. I ’ve fallen for the nice guy rhetoric more than once. I’ve thought I cared, but I was being transactional. I had some growth and thought because I was better than others I was good, I was just being superior and narcissistic. No! I have so much work to do. Most (read that not all) of us men  (including myself)  need to do better by the women in our lives. If that statement compels you as a man, don’t worry I’m talking about myself too. If you don’t think this is something you need to work on, cool, you don’t need to read this one. But I needed to write it.  A lot of this will be preaching to the choir for women. I know this will be preaching to the choir for some men. If that is you, carry on. If this pisses you off. Carry on. But if you can. Just try to r

I didn't write about conference this October. Because I didn't watch it. I couldn't watch it.  I'm struggling that bad with where I'm at with things.  I'm not seeing or hearing changes on social media. On purpose right now. I heard about the temple announced in CDA because I was texted about it. And I feel okay this time. I’ll read more when I’m up for it. I know there’s others that feel the same way. 

Humility leads to being vulnerable . But where does that vulnerability come from? Openness. And that’s a result of acceptance and true honestly with yourself and others. And it may result in interactions and behaviors you may not expect. We talk a lot about obedience to commandments in faith. But we also talk about meekness. I think often we think that meekness leading to an exacting unquestioning obedience. But I’m not sure anymore. Meekness is humility. It’s that simple to me. It's an openness and and an acceptance. Now that may lead to some forms of obedience. But it's so much simpler than that to me.  Humility leads to true kindness. The unfeigned kind. Meekness is compassion in that way. It requires not only the honesty to look truly inward but the fortitude to do something about it. This state of being is one I've seen most often in adversity and recovery. That in the lowest of the low we have to be demonstrably kind and honest with ourselves. And when we're there