It's about the mundane not sex

I'm scrambling with thoughts overrunning my attempts to type as I try to write it all out. I've been staring at a lot of conversation and criticism that I can't fully understand. 

Why does who someone loves or is attracted to matter so much? Why is it so threatening? Who someone decides to be with shouldn't effect others that damn much. 

Just thinking about this is getting me oddly emotional.

Intimacy is more than romance. And romance is so much more than sex. Therefore intimacy is so much more than sex. And we miss that. 

When people talk about the person they want to be in a relationship with they want to be, who they want to be with, they think of a lot of things. They think about the journey of life and who they want to let in to see it all. Now that sharing is the real secret. It's the genuine intimacy. It's so much more than sex and lust. It's the little things that are truly intimate. It's looking at someone and feeling safe, being able to share your deepest darkest emotions. It's the person you picture reaching over holding hands in the car. It's the person you want to look over and see sleeping in the middle of the night; letting their breathing calm you down from a nightmare. It's who you picturing cuddling on the couch. It's who you want to argue over the radio with. 

Let's be honest on the amount of our lives we spend with our chosen partners, and how much of it is just mundane. It's just life. And who we picture spending those moments of our life with, that's what matters most. That's who we're truly attracted to.  

At this point in my life the person I'm picturing in all of these scenarios is my wife. I want to see where we wind up. What we get to experience. I'm lucky to have someone I love so much to share those moments with. But I didn't always have her. 

There was a time when I was single. There was a time when I was growing up and it was all abstract. But I still pictured it. 

For most people they picture a partner of the opposite sex. That's just a statistical fact. But for a decent portion of the population they may picture a person of the same sex as them, or people of both genders at various times. 

That's where I was before I met my wife. Before I fell in love. I pictured my life of mundane moments with people of either gender. That's how people truly know their sexuality. That's the ironic part. It's not usually about sex. It's about the rest of it all. It's about who's the person with the intimate moments beyond a friendship. That something more. 

That's why I wan't people to start taking to heart in these discussions. When we talk about what's happening in Florida and other states we need to keep in mind these discussions aren't about sex. That's not what's being banned. We're cutting out entire discussions about relationships and families. And for some reason for a portion of our population the thought a family of that make up is frightening to them. And I don't know how to change that.