Can we listen to the hurt among us?
I don't have any eloquent epiphanies to solve the issues facing our nation. I wish I did. At this point I've talked a lot to a lot of people about this. I don't know what else to add to the broad conversation. But something has been tearing at me over the past couple of days. I feel like it's time to address it. This may just be a selfish attempt at some form of catharsis. But I hope it helps someone. Anyone.
I’m afraid in the intensity of the time we’re becoming desensitized to human loss and pain. Cases of disease and their deaths are laid out on tables and graphs. We pour over statistical analysis of crimes, actions, and incarcerations as we compare it to population numbers. We’re so intent on our position that we are losing connections. We’ve lost all grounding in our race to make a point. To win a conflict.
We need to recognize grievances or we going to lose people. We need to recognize goodness in truly good individuals in all aspects of this. Or we are going to lose people. Also we need realize there is pain, there is hurt, there is anger. We have to find a way to address that, deal with or we'll lose even more. People have lost people due to a pandemic, due to riots, due to police violence, they're all grieving. That matters.
We have a lot of individuals, families, and communities hurting. That's the truly visceral thing we've lost sight of. The individual human cost of this. We need to address that. The question is how.
I truly think the way to solve the majority of our major problems is to truly reconcile ourselves with the idea of Black Lives Matter. It's where I've seen the most pain. The direct open anger and grievances. Where there is a need and the capability for the most pain. That may be an emotional response. And I'm not trying to currently debate that. When we look at what's happening in the world. This is the crux of it for is them. I used to think this wasn't an issue. Or it was too focused. But the more I listen. The more I see. I think if we can focus on making people all agree with the simple fact that Black Lives Matter we'll all be better for it. I never realized how much pain this issue brought until this week. Not on a truly connected emotional level.
What I'm really here to say is that I almost lost someone I care about to the despair around this. They wanted to take their life. It isn't my story to tell but it landed like a ton of bricks. I've had more than one DM of people I care about, people I love hurting through this. It's caused me to pause for a second. To really examine why there is so much pain. The pain is real. The emotions are valid. Can we please please please start there. If we can focus on minimizing harm. Focus on trying to truly help each other. Maybe we can get somewhere. Because there isn't outrage for no reason. People aren't contemplating their existence over nothing.
I just hope we take this plea seriously. Can we stop caring about being right for a minute. Stop caring about winning. Take a moment to just care. Take a moment to check it.
please. I'm begging you.
I think I need to take a step back. Find ways to connect. Get rid of the anger and be there for people. Because I'm struggling myself with this. I'm so tired of being angry and being frustrated. It's burning me out. But we can't lose anyone else.
So I'm here. Call me, text me, DM me anytime. Please. Before it gets too bad. Before you need to do something rash. You call me. I'm here.
You know why? Because I'm hurting too. None of this has happened in a vacuum. These issues are stacking on each other. They are piling up and crushing people. Those of us who struggle with demons and mental health are all feeling them at this point. Something tells me the times of stress and pain aren't over yet. So we need to do something.
Let's listen. If someone is troubled lets listen. If someone is hurting let's listen.
Are you in?
I'm doubling down. Reaching out. Trying to keep my head above water. I think if we all try to help each other to shore we'll make it that much better.
I'm not here to preach at people. That's not my intent. I just am afraid I've lost sight of what matters most. The individual people. I don't think I'm alone.
So let's focus on that. Reach out to those who may be troubled. Just check on them. Please. That's what I'm asking you to do. Check on people and listen.
Thank you.
I’m afraid in the intensity of the time we’re becoming desensitized to human loss and pain. Cases of disease and their deaths are laid out on tables and graphs. We pour over statistical analysis of crimes, actions, and incarcerations as we compare it to population numbers. We’re so intent on our position that we are losing connections. We’ve lost all grounding in our race to make a point. To win a conflict.
We need to recognize grievances or we going to lose people. We need to recognize goodness in truly good individuals in all aspects of this. Or we are going to lose people. Also we need realize there is pain, there is hurt, there is anger. We have to find a way to address that, deal with or we'll lose even more. People have lost people due to a pandemic, due to riots, due to police violence, they're all grieving. That matters.
We have a lot of individuals, families, and communities hurting. That's the truly visceral thing we've lost sight of. The individual human cost of this. We need to address that. The question is how.
I truly think the way to solve the majority of our major problems is to truly reconcile ourselves with the idea of Black Lives Matter. It's where I've seen the most pain. The direct open anger and grievances. Where there is a need and the capability for the most pain. That may be an emotional response. And I'm not trying to currently debate that. When we look at what's happening in the world. This is the crux of it for is them. I used to think this wasn't an issue. Or it was too focused. But the more I listen. The more I see. I think if we can focus on making people all agree with the simple fact that Black Lives Matter we'll all be better for it. I never realized how much pain this issue brought until this week. Not on a truly connected emotional level.
What I'm really here to say is that I almost lost someone I care about to the despair around this. They wanted to take their life. It isn't my story to tell but it landed like a ton of bricks. I've had more than one DM of people I care about, people I love hurting through this. It's caused me to pause for a second. To really examine why there is so much pain. The pain is real. The emotions are valid. Can we please please please start there. If we can focus on minimizing harm. Focus on trying to truly help each other. Maybe we can get somewhere. Because there isn't outrage for no reason. People aren't contemplating their existence over nothing.
I just hope we take this plea seriously. Can we stop caring about being right for a minute. Stop caring about winning. Take a moment to just care. Take a moment to check it.
please. I'm begging you.
I think I need to take a step back. Find ways to connect. Get rid of the anger and be there for people. Because I'm struggling myself with this. I'm so tired of being angry and being frustrated. It's burning me out. But we can't lose anyone else.
So I'm here. Call me, text me, DM me anytime. Please. Before it gets too bad. Before you need to do something rash. You call me. I'm here.
You know why? Because I'm hurting too. None of this has happened in a vacuum. These issues are stacking on each other. They are piling up and crushing people. Those of us who struggle with demons and mental health are all feeling them at this point. Something tells me the times of stress and pain aren't over yet. So we need to do something.
Let's listen. If someone is troubled lets listen. If someone is hurting let's listen.
Are you in?
I'm doubling down. Reaching out. Trying to keep my head above water. I think if we all try to help each other to shore we'll make it that much better.
I'm not here to preach at people. That's not my intent. I just am afraid I've lost sight of what matters most. The individual people. I don't think I'm alone.
So let's focus on that. Reach out to those who may be troubled. Just check on them. Please. That's what I'm asking you to do. Check on people and listen.
Thank you.
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