Types of grief

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 There are two methods of grieving I'll never be able to wrap my mind around. Suffering in silence, and turning pain into a macabre competition. 

I know the stages of grief. I’ve experienced and studied them. I know we don’t always do them linearly. We may fixate on phases or actions.

Grief isn’t pretty. It’s dark. It’s consuming. 

But it can lead to something amazing.

That’s why I hate when it’s weaponized. Used against each other. Used to inflict pain instead of working through it.

It’s my hope we can all learn from grief. Share it. Experience with others the range of emotions it is.


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